Am I liked? Am I cherished? Do I fit in? Will I ever be smart enough? Am I lovable?
These are just a few questions that occasionally wander through our minds. As individuals, we are constantly analyzing ourselves to determine who we are and what we have to offer the world. As difficult as it may be, the path to finding your identity can be clouded by other aspects in life. As you read my post, take a moment to look into your life and acknowledge what you "think" your identity is defined by, but slowly begin to understand that many of these things hold no value.
1. Your Degree(s)
I’m sure the world is thrilled to know that you have an B.S./B.A. or a PhD, but those things don’t matter. I am incredibly proud of you for working hard to achieve that degree, but that’s not who you are. Sorry not sorry, but your level of education does not define who you are as a person. A degree is just a symbolic representation of your efforts, passion and goals.
Also, don't get me wrong. A degree is an impressive and monumental thing, in anyone's life. You should be proud if you are pursuing a degree or already have one. I’m working towards two right now.
*I'm just saying, it doesn't determine who you are, as an individual.
2. Your Past
Your mistakes and failures do not symbolize who you are right now. Sure, you made a few inappropriate choices back in the day, but you have changed since then. No matter what, you are stronger mentally, emotionally and maybe even physically. The past is the past. Once that door is shut, throw the key away.
3. Your Appearance
To my ladies with cellulite, stretch marks and unwanted hair… I’m here for you. To my men that are doing two-a-day workouts, because they HAVE to get that summer body, I’m here for you too…just eating cheesecake, lol. We all want perfect bodies, but that “perfect” figure won’t change who the Lord says you are. Learn to find comfort in Him telling you how beautiful or handsome you are. His opinion is better than anyone else’s.
4. Your Relationship status
I feel like this one is a BIG problem for many people. I know it must be hard being the single friend out of all your friends, but trust me… your time is coming. Don’t let the sight of Facebook Life Events determine where you’re going in life. Maybe your leading Lady or Man hasn’t arrived yet and that’s okay. Until then, walk faithfully and steadfastly with the Lord and when it’s time, you’ll know.
Our Heavenly Father defines who we are; he defines every aspect of our mind, body and spirit. He is the ONLY person on the planet that can define who you are. I believe that everyone was given a divine spirit and this spirit is only for you and nobody else. With this spirit, you are to learn who you are as an individual, how your life impacts others and what your purpose is.
I believe that when we don’t know who we are or where we’re going in life, we are susceptible to people telling us what we are. Even the enemy will creep in and try to convince you otherwise. This is when we feel as if others begin to know us better than ourselves and that’s when we fall into a trap. This trap is full of words that have NO value to us as children of God. Don’t let yourself fall into this trap of letting others tell you who you are, you are who God says you are.
You shall not fall to words of your enemies and you should never question the attributes that the Lord has given you. I ask you to trust Him and let Him reveal to you, who you really are. Ask Him, talk to Him like you speak to your friends and tell Him that you want to know who He defines you as. Let His light shine through you and for you, in all aspects of your life.