Stay Single Until You've Realized These Things: Part 2
Part 2 is finally here! I am so incredibly honored and thankful that so many of you fell in love with Part 1. If you haven't read part 1, be sure to read it HERE.
Stay Single until you've realized that....
1. You should not be looking for a lifejacket, because you are drowning in the pool of life.
I understand that life is challenging. Some seasons are full of passion and others are full of misery, but , do not look for someone to be your life jacket. A man or a woman cannot rescue you from tough times, nor should they have to. Just because you are having a dreadful day, week, year or season, doesn't mean that someone else needs to rescue you. They can make you feel better, but they cannot change the scenario. You don't need to be rescued. You need to: breathe, assess the situation, acknowledge if you’re making the situation worse and then swim away.
2. It is okay to be alone.
I finally understood this phrase...like 3 months ago. It's one thing to be alone and another thing to be lonely. Being alone means that there is no one around you, whereas being lonely means that you are "sad because you have no friends or company". Please learn the difference then rephrase what you say. I believe that being alone is one the greatest things that we can do for our minds. We are constantly moving at 100mph and sometimes, just sometimes, it is okay to stop and be in solitude. It's okay to be alone, because you don't need anyone else to bring you happiness. Plus, the greatest thing to do in life is be so comfortable being alone, that when people walk out of your life, you don’t feel like you’ve lost something. So, do not call him/her over for Netflix and Chill. We all know that leads to Netflix and Children. (Watch yourself, lol)
3. People change and so will you.
We are constantly growing as individuals and we should never hold anyone accountable for who they were yesterday or two years ago. You are in no way forced to stay the way you are. School, people, strangers and scenarios will change you. We develop new interests, likes, dislikes, pet peeves, whatever it may be. You can transform yourself and become better than you were yesterday. So please, do not hold someone accountable for changing, because no one is holding you accountable.
4. Not everyone is meant to be in your life.
I have a whole post on this, linked HERE, but here's a simple quote that will sum it all for you.
"People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person." -Unknown
Thank you so much for reading my latest post- I appreciate you all, greatly.
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