How to Go From BITTER to BETTER

Okay, let’s be real. Everyone struggles with bitterness, men and women. It’s something that creeps up on us randomly and we don’t even realize that we have it, until someone calls us out on it.

  1. How many times have you been upset that someone wouldn’t apologize to you, because you believe that you deserved it?
  2. How many times have you been mad that someone bought those sneakers that you’ve been wanting forever, before you?
  3. How many of you are bitter because you see your friend getting her workout on and you’re still on Instagram and Pinterest trying to get that “Summer Body in 10 easy workouts”?

C'mon now. We all suffer from bitterness and it's not cute, but all jokes aside, it's not easy to get rid of.


Read my 4 ways (below) to help you move from BITTER to BETTER


Forgive

Although, easier said than done, forgiveness is something that everyone must accomplish to move past bitterness. Now, forgiveness is not about forgetting what the person did to you or pretending to be okay. Honestly, that would be a waste of time and an absolutely ridiculous favor to ask of you.
Forgiveness is about finally releasing that negative thought of revenge and hatred out of your mind and wanting to move forward. It's wanting to take that leap of faith into a positive direction, that'll not only bring you peace, but comfort.
Forgiveness is something that the Lord so graciously does for us, without any hesitation or hidden agendas. He's not boastful about it, he doesn't remind us that he's done it for us and most of all, he doesn't regret doing it. Meaning you should work on yourself to reach the point of being able to forgive whomever wronged you.
If God so effortlessly forgives you when you’ve done wrong, why can’t you forgive others?

For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
— Matthew 6:14-15

Shift your energy
Start to think of things other than that person or shift your energy into a matter or into a form of releasing anger. The Lord has blessed us with a bountiful amount of energy and it is up to us, to use it! I watched an episode of one of my favorite shows {Mistresses} and the character was going through a rough time in life. She decided to shift her energy to boxing and before she knew it, she felt amazing.
This is what you should do. Not exactly boxing, but something that sends good vibes and makes you look and feel good, too. Take up a hobby, go shopping, eat some ice cream, but whatever you do…don’t put your energy into your bitterness. Release it, don’t resonate in it.

May you be strengthened with all power, according to his glorious might, for all endurance and patience with joy
— Colossians 1:11


Stop retelling people or yourself what happened

“Talking about it helps me feel better and I’m not as angry anymore.”
Why are you lying?! You know inside your head, you are mentally attacking her with your lightning bolt eyes. Stop it! If you are bitter and angry, talk to God! Stop talking to the friend you know will always have your back by saying “Girl, yasssssss. He/She did you WRONG!” DUH he/she did you wrong; that’s why you’re bitter and you already knew that!

This is another time when Let Go and Let God comes in handy!  Stop griping about what he/she did to you or how he/she made you feel less of yourself, because I can assure you that he/she (the person you’re mad at) is not moping around and complaining. Just talk to God about it and let him calm you down and overcome the situation.

Hear me when I call, O God of my righteousness: you have enlarged me when I was in distress; have mercy on me, and hear my prayer.
— Psalms 4:1

Seek Grace

The Lord has blessed us with grace and I definitely think it’s something we sometimes take for granted. Without grace, after all the sins we have committed, we would not have been able to be forgiven from our Lord and Savior. The Lord will never turn his back on you and you should never think that he will. He wants you to come back to him, repent and be ready to carry on with your life and his grace, effortlessly. I understand that you may be the victim in the situation that caused you to be bitter, but do not hold onto anything other than the Lord’s love and healing.
Don’t bury your hurt at the bottom of your soul; make it your goal to heal with the Lord. It's not an overnight process, but more of little steps to lifestyle change.

Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in.
— 2 Corinthians 12:8-9

Do you agree with what I have to say? Do you struggle with forgiveness and need more advice? (Click this link to go to my advice page)
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