Your exit is this way

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   To all the people that have been affected by someone walking out of their life

In life we aren't immune to people hurting us; nor are we immune to hurting others. In fact, the only thing that we can control or deal with is how we handle that hurt.

In this crazy thing called life, many of us will experience great fears and even greater tragedies. (Hopefully by the grace of God, nothing too tragic.) A big fear that I know many people have dealt with, including myself, is the fear of someone walking out on them, whether it'd be in a marriage, friendship, relationship or anything of that nature. The object of watching someone literally leave your life, with no warning, is quite scary. But let me tell you something even scarier.

If someone walks out of your life, you need to be grateful. And by grateful, I mean you need to thank God. You need to thank him for "freeing" that space in your life that another individual was taking up. You need to thank him for the strength he is going to give you, to GET OVER that individual.

Psalms 139:14 says “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well.”  God says that you are fearfully and wonderfully made, nobody can take that away from you. You are a precious human and you deserve to have people that value you and cherish you in your life. Please don't allow someone's negative actions to free up room for the enemy to creep in and feed you lies. Remember that God has proclaimed who you are; you just need to believe it.

Pastor TD Jakes says "If someone wants to walk out of your life, let them." LET THEM GO! You hear me? Let. Them. Go.

If they are so willing to leave you, please don't be willing to stop them. If they can't see your value, your worth and your heart...please don't try to change their mind! Quite frankly, if the thought has crossed their mind to leave you behind, they aren't someone you should have in your life anyway. You my friend are not a second option. You are worth more than you can ever imagine and if someone can't see that, then it sucks to be them. You were not created to yearn after others. You were created to be loved, honored, respected and cherished. That person that has walked out on you, no longer has the capability of doing that.

You may think, but I love them, but we've been together for so long, but we're best friends, but--

But but but. Do you know what the word but means? "But" basically means to squeeze together or shrink. That's what you're doing when someone is walking out your life and you're trying to stop them. You're using the word "but", to fix or squeeze that person back into your life, when they have already decided that they wanted out.

I know it's not easy and I know it's not a 30 day trial of "How to get over someone that walked out on you", but it is work. Its work, prayer, support and encouragement. For all those times people walked out on you, think of the people that walked in. Think of the friends that you now have, in replace of that person. When God makes room for others in your life, don't fight it. Embrace it. Hold onto it. Hold onto God and see what he does for you. Just trust him and the life that has planned for you. I promise you, you won't be disappointed. I'm not trying to say that watching someone walk out of your life is easy, nor is it avoidable. Honestly, it'll hurt you; It'll feel like a drop of H2O2 (this is for all my fellow Science lovers) falling on an open wound and trust me, it'll burn.

All I'm saying is that if someone is trying to walk out of your life freely...by golly, hold the door open for them and make it easier on yourself.