5 Ways You're Making Your Own Life Difficult

As humans, we always say that we want to live a better life, but forget that sometimes we are the cause of our own frustrations. So, here's my take on 5 ways that YOU may be making your life more difficult and what you should do about it. And at the end of this post, I hope you realize that...

Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you.
— John C. Maxwell

1. You do things you hate
This is a tough one, because it can easily be tied into quitting. Now, I'm not saying quit the job you need (unless you have one on back-up) and I'm not saying drop the class that makes you hate life (that's a waste of money), but I am saying that you should evaluate what you truly, truly despise. If there's something (or even someone), that you cannot stand to do or be around, please release yourself from that pain and frustration. You are literally making yourself MISERABLE by tolerating a circumstance that you can't even give a 100% effort to. Don't do a superficial job, just to get things done - give 110% of your effort. Always. Figure out what you hate, see how it's affecting you, then make a change. 

2. You hang out with people you don't like...then you complain about it
If you do this, I'm mad at you. This is really simple so pay attention:
Person A doesn't like the way Person B treats them. Person A continues to hang out with Person B. Person A then complains to Person C. Now, Person A is even more upset about not liking Person B. Person A then goes on to make plans for brunch with Person B, again. 
WHAT IS YOU DOING BABY?! Stop it. If you don't like the way someone is treating you, call them out on it. Let them know how you feel and ask them to change their ways. If they change, then by all means, keep them in your life. If they don't, let them go and know that you deserve respect. Don't put yourself in uncomfortable situations, life is too short for that. 

3. You're always griping/complaining/whining
I can't be friends with Stage 4 complainers. They legitimately suck the life out of me. It drives me insane. Be content with what you and try not to complain about what you don't! What's yours will be yours and what's meant to be will always find its way back to you. Be thankful for what you have now. Enjoy these moments. Live in the present, but please, please, stop fussing. 

4. You compare where you are in life to others
You are exactly where you're supposed to be. Maybe a little behind on your personal timeline, but this is where you need to be. Yes, we all have timelines, but you should never aim to compare your timeline to someone else's. Or your victories, at that. You are successful in being you and no one else can take that away from you. Enjoy your current season of life and avoid comparison- it steals joy, anyway. 

5. You let someone else control your happiness
I will harp on this for as long as I live. I get really frustrated when people tell me that they aren't happy because someone else stole their happiness. I need y'all to remember this - your happiness is yours to keep and give, as you please! Don't let someone else steal it, because you don't have a better grasp on it. Be the leader of your own happiness and take control of what YOU deserve. 


I hope this post helped y'all a little bit more in life and I pray that you all have a wonderful week!

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