Being in my 20s has revolutionized my way of thinking. I have had the best of times and the worst of times. I have gained, I have lost, I’ve succeeded, and I’ve failed. Yet, the thing that always remained important to me, other than my love for Christ, is my happiness. My peace of mind, soul… my joy. I realized that when you put your happiness first, you can only attract goodness. When you’re unhappy and mad at life, you literally harvest pessimism. You create a vortex of misery around your own life and why would anyone want that?
1 year ago, I made the decision to be happy, no matter the outcome or the season. Although it has not been easy to embrace this new mentality, I realized 10 things that needed to be analyzed in my life, to truly bask in happiness.
It was a slow process, but I am glad to say that one year now, I am better-off.
I pray that these 10 things help you and I know you may not agree with all of them, but I do believe that this is the first step to a happier you.
1. Other People’s Opinions
It’s quite simple. Your life is YOUR life. If someone is speaking negatively of you, my friend, keep them at a distance, because you do not need that kind of energy in your life. Value the opinions of those that care for you, pray for you and love you. Life is too short, why spend it caring about non-factors?
2. Past Relationships
I’m sorry that you and your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend/friends are no longer together, but I’m going to need you to let it go. Learn what you can from that relationship and proceed with life. There is no use in harboring any negative thoughts- that only slow down your personal growth. Heal your broken heart, mend your spirits, then make your next relationship last.
3. Past Mistakes or Failures
I’m guilty of looking back on my mistakes, until I realized that my mistakes have made me who I am today! Your mishaps and failures have truly shaped you into the beautiful person that you are today. Yes, what you did back then messed you up, but look how God used the mess up and made you up, into a better individual.
4. Past Rejections
I’m going to keep this simple. Man’s rejection is God’s protection. Okay? Okuuurrrr.
5. Comparing your journey to others
One day, I’m going to write an entire post on this. This is specifically dedicated to my indiviudlas that are still in College, still busting their butt’s to accomplish that “C’s get degrees” mentality and STILL don’t have their life together. IT IS OKAY. The journey is far more important than the end game. Other people may graduate before you, get engaged before you, have kids before and make more money before you. Yet, none of that matters! You will reach the end goal, when you can and when you know what it is. You will be successful, as long as you work for it. And you will be just fine.
6. People that do not care about you
Do I need to explain this one? When people show you who they are, trust them the first time. Actions speak louder than words and anyone that purposefully or habitually fails and/or hurts you is not worthy of your relationship/friendship.
7. Your Relationship Status
I’ve briefly discussed this before. You’ve got to stop placing your happiness in your relationship status. Whether you’re single or in a serious relationship, remember who you are outside of your relationship. Remember, you’re not defined by your singleness or by your good-looking significant other. You have the power to be as happy as you want to be, embrace that. Relationships are not about completeness, they are about compatitbility.
8. Society’s expectations for your life
Society will always tell you that you’re not where you’re “supposed” to be. This goes hand in hand with #5. Whether you graduate at 21 or 27, or you’re married and have kids at 35 and not 24… your life is your life. Don’t let society pressure you into rushing your timeline. Do what’s best for you – you’re the one that has to live with it anyway.
Also, a simple one. Perfectionism and #goals is brought on by society. You will never be perfect, nor will your life be flawless. Learn to appreciate who you are and what you have now. Stop striving for something that may never be met.
10. What life could have been
When you spend your life thinking… “What if?” you’re causing yourself to once again, live in the past. Live in the present and wait for the future. You are where you are right now, because God wanted you here. Take your time to enjoy it. Embrace it. Bask in it. Be proud of you who YOU are, today and all the others.
Thank you again for reading another post. Please share with me in the comments, if you have something to say! I’m always ready to hear from you and I pray this inspiration helps you. I'm praying for you and your heart! xoxo